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I didn’t have much to say…
Read more…: I didn’t have much to say…I am coming out of winter hibernation without much of a story to share. I kind of suck at widowing in the winter. Why does January feel like a long weekend in purgatory? Why is it followed by February with Valentine’s Day and Girl Scout cookies? I wish I could tell you it is getting…
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In Lieu of Flowers
Read more…: In Lieu of FlowersIn Lieu of Flowers…this sentence is usually finalized with all the many ways you can help honor the death of a loved one. Here I am on the eve of another December 3rd, and all I want to share is how much gratitude I have for the man who left me here and the village…
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Welcome to my art museum
Read more…: Welcome to my art museumIt is “that time of year” again. The fall holidays are already being overshadowed by Santa. I had a mini panic attack when I turned the corner in Costco and walked into a Christmas tree…in September! Ugh. Is it another Thanksgiving without my mom and dad already? Is it the dreaded month of December again?…
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Tootles
Read more…: TootlesTootles. That is what my youngest daughter said to me, with her face pressed against my car window, both of us with tears in our eyes as we parted ways in her college parking lot this week. Tootles. And in that space, that moment of departure from my role as her daily guardian, I saw…
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Unicorns & Your Solar System
Read more…: Unicorns & Your Solar SystemI found out this week that I am not a unicorn. I am not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing yet because I am still stunned by it. I honestly walked around my world for the past year and a half believing I was an actual unicorn. No one else…
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You won’t like me when I’m angry
Read more…: You won’t like me when I’m angryThere is truth in everything. Everyone has their own valid perspective and more than one thing can be true at the same time. I am not sure if I learned this from the Oprah show after school growing up or in therapy. Oh! And there are two sides to every coin. That might be from…
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Get back out there, they said…
Read more…: Get back out there, they said…I am 18 months into being “alone” in a world where I spent almost 30 years as a couple with my late husband, Erik. I have just started to use the phrase, “my late husband” because I have been referring to him as “my husband” in the present tense since he died. That is a…
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I’ll have the perpetuity package, please.
Read more…: I’ll have the perpetuity package, please.I loved watching the new show on Netflix this month called The Four Seasons. I love the cast but the whole show is a throwback to Alan Alda’s movie back in the olden days. I don’t know how old you are but I am M.A.S.H old and my mother was in love with Alan Alda.…
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Me and the Roman Empire
Read more…: Me and the Roman EmpireI have a pretty long commute into Atlanta for work during the week. After Erik died, I could only listen to sad songs and found an actual channel called “feeling blue radio” to solidify my sparkling attitude on the way into work. I have since eased my way back into managing my attention span for…
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Potholes
Read more…: PotholesI am in a pothole. I named these “grief episodes” after the cracks in the road that sometimes take us by surprise when we are driving. I never see them coming but have been learning to navigate them when they hit me. I know they are temporary and necessary for my growth. But they are…
Comfort Food & the Dying Part 